Inspiration

I Want to Get Better

This is short and sweet. I've been feeling a little bit low lately. It happens to the best of us. The difference at this point in my life is that I really know how to take care of myself when I'm feeling this way, so that's such a good thing. I also know it will pass. A lot of times when I'm feeling down, not inspired, not seeing the rainbow at the end of the tunnel (or whatever that expression is), I can tell I'm just showing up daily but that there's a whole part of me "waiting it out." You know...sometimes there's really nothing to do but wait.

I think we spend a lot of our lives trying to force stuff. Especially nowadays. We try and force our bodies into a specific shape, we try and force our lives to look a certain way, have our careers be a specific thing, earn a specific amount of money...but I really think we have forgotten how to just SIT BACK AND WAIT. Waiting and observing can have it's own sort of deliciousness. And it's such a relief not to have to PUSH!

So on that note, I'm sharing a song that perks me up! Do you know this song? I especially appreciate that Donna from Parks and Rec is in the video (picture below). Okay--it isn't actually Donna! It's Retta, who plays Donna. I love them both :)

I WANNA GET BETTER by Bleachers

Hope you have an AWESOME week!

And if things aren't awesome...wait them out. Things will get better.

xoxo

Elijah

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Don't Stop Me Now!

Hello, Gorgeous! How are you? HAPPY SUNDAY! I hope wherever you are there's just enough sunshine to make you smile today.

REMINDER: Virtual Goddess Gathering is HAPPENING and we are going to talk about LOVE. Mostly SELF LOVE and BODY LOVE because that is a THING IN THIS WORLD and people, I intend to do all I can to dismantle this current oppressive beauty and body image insanity and set us FREE! Next Gathering is on Saturday, February 24th at 10am PST. BUT--I am going to do one on a weekday evening, as well...still working on which date will work for that so stay tuned!

A major reason that loving our bodies and loving ourselves is so so important is because when we hate on our bodies (and ourselves because our body is us...not something separate from us) we do REALLY CRAZY MESSED UP THINGS with food. And with exercise. The biggest thing I see people doing is to "moralize" food. You've probably done it yourself because you're a human that lives on the planet. This food is "good". This food is "bad". When I eat "good" food, I'm GOOD. When I eat "bad" food, I feel shame and I spiral down a guilt rabbit hole that has me saying "fuck it" and eating all the food that makes me feel terrible about myself for days. It's a crazy cycle and I've seen it and personally lived it many times before.

It may be counterintuitive, but when we put moral judgment on food we immediately take ourselves out of a healthy mindset. Usually, almost immediately, we feel DEPRIVED even if we aren't hungry. Cravings kick in. We tell ourselves that WILL POWER is where it's at and when we don't have it we think we are lazy, awful, slothful, weak...and we spiral down again.

True food freedom actually comes when we don't moralize food. But that's kind of hard in a culture that bombards us with articles every which way around WHAT TO EAT and WHAT NOT TO EAT and NEVER EAT THIS and ALWAYS EAT THAT...it is crazy making.

Later this week I'm going to send an email that goes into more detail about why our food obsession is making us UNHEALTHY. So look out for that in your inbox!

Now--as you know (and for those of you new to my list and don't know) this is SOUL SONGSUNDAY! Today we are going OLD SCHOOL! CRANK THIS ONE UP AND ROCK INTO YOUR WEEK!

DON'T STOP ME NOW - QUEEN

 

 

 

Don't Stop Me Now

Tonight I'm gonna have myself a real good time
I feel alive and the world I'll turn it inside out - yeah
And floating around in ecstasy
So don't stop me now don't stop me
'Cause I'm having a good time having a good time

I'm a shooting star leaping through the sky
Like a tiger defying the laws of gravity
I'm a racing car passing by like Lady Godiva
I'm gonna go go go
There's no stopping me

I'm burnin' through the sky yeah
Two hundred degrees
That's why they call me Mister Fahrenheit
I'm trav'ling at the speed of light
I wanna make a supersonic man out of you

 

Don't stop me now I'm having such a good time
I'm having a ball
Don't stop me now
If you wanna have a good time just give me a call
Don't stop me now ('Cause I'm having a good time)
Don't stop…

HAVE AN UNSTOPPABLE WEEK!!!

xo,

Elijah

"I'm fat and ugly"

I think A LOT about the subject of us loving ourselves. I can honestly say that not a single day goes by when I don't think about it. There's a couple of reasons why. First and foremost, because it took me FOREVER to FINALLY LOVE MYSELF. Man. I spent way to many years walking around under the cloud of not being good enough, pretty enough, thin enough...not enough not enough not enough. ENOUGH ALREADY.

The other reason is that I hear women and men EVERY DAY talk shit about themselves as if it was the most normal thing in the world. And you know what? It is normal. Or maybe I should say, it's the norm.

Just some of the things I've heard:

  • "I'm disgusting."
  • "I hate my body."
  • "I'm repulsive."
  • "I can't stand myself."
  • "I'm a piece of human garbage."
  • "No one will ever love this grossness."

And many many more. I want to state that the above quotes are actual things I've heard people say--both strangers and people that I know and love. It is so heart-breaking to me. I wonder how many of you reading this are thinking, "That's not really any big deal. We all say stuff like that to ourselves. It motivates us."? Are you thinking this isn't a big deal? You might be. For me, it isn't that I didn't think it was a big deal but that I didn't really think about it at all because EVERYONE DID IT. I was the fish that didn't know I lived in water--it was all around me so I truly didn't know any different. But once you start noticing, you can't stop. And once you understand how deeply damaging this is to yourself and the life you want to live (I mean truly stepping into a powerful and juicy life that has you feeling ALIVE) then you'll understand what a big deal this truly is.

I've been there. I have countless journal entries where (no exaggeration) I've just written over and over again, "I'm fat and ugly, I'm fat and ugly..." It crushes me to think of that version of myself, lying in bed writing in her journal in so much pain.

It took me years to climb out of that deep, dark hole, and now I'm determined to pull others up behind me (and do it faster than I did!).

Why? So many reasons why. But one of the biggest is that WE NEED YOU. And when you are lying in bed thinking you're a piece of shit, or even if you're just walking around thinking good things won't happen until you lose 15 pounds, YOU ARE NOT BRINGING YOUR FULL GAME. And seriously--the world needs you to show up powerfully. I believe that all of us, deep inside, want to be in service to the world--make this a better place. We want to know we are making a difference even if it is just in our small corner...if you think that sounds cheesy then 1) yes, I agree, it sounds cheesy but 2) it's dead on. And 3) if you're denying that then you just aren't willing to own that part of you that wants to shine--to truly bring passion and purpose to your life. I get it. It's scary. It can feel daunting. But truthfully, avoiding that, dulling your passions, editing yourself in order to please others and not make waves...oooooooh! THAT IS EXHAUSTING!

So what I'm saying here is that THE FUTURE OF THE WORLD IS AT STAKE. That's how important learning to love yourself is!

This is February. It's the month we associate with love. I am declaring February the LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF month. Yes, it is f**king hard. And yes, it is totally worth it.

I know you have a lot of questions. The main question is HOW???? HOW DO I LOVE MYSELF??? The mantras don't work! Thinking positive only goes so far! And anyways, I truly am not good enough so come on! I'm not lovable!

I get it. I've been there. And I'm going to help you. This entire month I'm going to talk about this and get you on that path. Because THE TRUE YOU IS WAITING. It's ready to SHINE!

And since it is Soul Song Sunday, we are going to jam to some self love by the breathtaking India Arie. Put this song in your pocket and listen to it every day--it's going to start you down that road to LOVE of SELF.

 

India Arie VIDEO

 

 

 

Sometimes I shave my legs and sometimes I don't
Sometimes I comb my hair and sometimes I won't
Depend of how the wind blows I might even paint my toes
It really just depends on whatever feels good in my soul

I'm not the average girl from your video
And I ain't built like a supermodel
But I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be
India.Arie

When I look in the mirror and the only one there is me
Every freckle on my face is where it's suppose to be
And I know my creator didn't make no mistakes on me
My feet, my thighs, my lips, my eyes, I'm loving what I see

I'm not the average girl from your video
And I ain't built like a supermodel
But I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be
India.Arie

Am I less of a lady if I don't wear panty hose
My momma said a lady ain't what she wears but what she knowsâ?¦
But I've drawn the conclusion, it's all an illusion
Confusion's the name of the game
A misconception, a mass deception,
Something gotta change

Now don't be offended this is all my opinion
Ain't nothing that I'm saying law
This is a true confession
Of a life learned lesson
I was sent here to share with y'all
So get in when you fit in
Go on and shine
Clear your mind
Now's the time
Put your salt on the shelf
Go on and love yourself
Cause everything's gonna be alright

I'm not the average girl from your video
And I ain't built like a supermodel
But I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be
India.Arie

Keep your fancy drink, and your expensive minks
I don't need that to have a good time
Keep your expensive cars and your caviar
All I need is my guitar

Keep your crystal and your pistol
I'd rather have a pretty piece of crystal
Don't need you silicone, I prefer my own
What god gave me is just fine

I'm not the average girl from your video
And I ain't built like a supermodel
But I learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be
India.Arie

When Things are Crappy

HOLD ON!

This is your Soul Song Sunday! Thank you to Jill Overland Rosenweig for sending this song to me! I had never heard of Walk the Earth and THEY ARE AWESOME!!

This is the kind of catchy, uplifting tune that will bring you out of your funk. I like to put it on repeat (only on my earbuds because otherwise I drive my husband crazy)! I love music that LIFTS ME UP!

The video is super cute, too :)

 

If you like this song, let me know!

And if you have a song to suggest for Soul Song Sunday, let me know!

HAVE AN UPLIFTING WEEK!!

Elijah

HOLD ON by Walk the Earth

I never wanted it to break
I thought we'd put it all behind us
Ever since that day
All I wanna do is find us
Now I'm falling down
I'm falling down without you
So I'm calling out
I'm calling out to find you

You gotta hold on to what you got, babe
It ain't always greener on the other side
We ain't rich but we're worth a lot, babe
I wanna see the world with your hand in my hand, you know
Come on I'll love you like that
It ain't always greener on the other side
Come on I'll love you like that
I wanna see the world with your hand in my hand, you know

Even when I make mistakes
You would always bring me higher
We got caught up in our wings
Like the time we had the bonfire
There was no one else, no one else around you
So I'm calling out
I'm calling out to find you

You gotta hold on to what you got, babe
It ain't always greener on the other side
We ain't rich but we're worth a lot, babe
I wanna see the world with your hand in my hand, you know
Come on I'll love you like that
It ain't always greener on the other side
Come on I'll love you like that
I wanna see the world with your hand in my hand, you know
You gotta hold on to what you got, babe
You gotta hold on to what you got, babe

I didn't know just how much I loved you girl
Until you've hurt my heart and destroyed my world
When we're apart I'm a perm without a curl
'Cause ever since we started you've been an ocean to my pearl
You and I together 'till dove all protects us
Making much sense as a love between fascists
But we'll be long time rocking great nine classes
I know we'll be together till this life passes

You gotta hold on to what you got, babe
It ain't always greener on the other side
We ain't rich but we're worth a lot, babe
I wanna see the world again in my mind you know
Come on I'll love you like that
It ain't always greener on the other side
Come on I'll love you like that
I wanna see the world again in my mind you know
You gotta hold on to what you got, babe
It ain't always greener on the other side
We ain't rich but we're worth a lot, babe
I wanna see the world again in my mind you know
Come on I'll love you like that
It ain't always greener on the other side
Come on I'll love you like that
I wanna see the world again in my mind you know

I love you, love you, love you like that
And I watched you walk away
I love you, love you, love you like that
Never wanted it to break
I love you, love you, love you like that
And I watched you walk away
I love you, love you, love you like that
Never wanted it to break

I'm Obsessed with this Woman!

Happy Sunday! This is Soul Song Sunday! I'm so excited to share this with you!

Last week I stumbled across this woman--Nina Grae--and from the moment I started reading her website I knew she was something really unique in the world!

Her latest album is called, THE REMEDY and it's music is PRESCRIPTIVE! Meaning she has each song written to ease an ailment. For example (from her website):

IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS SUFFERING FROM:

  • HEARTBREAK

  • A BREAKUP OR

  • GENERAL LOVELESS-NESS

PLEASE LISTEN TO OR SEND AN INVITATION TO DOWNLOAD

PHONECALL*

PLAY AT LEAST 2X DAILY

ONCE IN THE MORNING AND ONCE BEFORE BED WITH CLOSED EYES AND AN OPEN HEART.

*Side-effects may include hopefulness, forgiveness of self and others, expression and release of buried emotion, renewed sense of inner-strength.

HOW AWESOME IS THAT???? Each song on the album is a prescription for something :)

Music is so powerful--it has the power to shift your perspective, your mood, your story, your life. As my best friend, Lisa Skye's dad, Hank always said, "The music will set you free."

Today I'm going to share a song to get you pumped for STANDING UP and SPEAKING UP for what is RIGHT and GOOD. It is called, LEGACY. Check is out:

 

 

Legacy by Nina Grae

Are you looking to be entertained?
I don't know if I can help today.
Too many questions on my heart and on my brain
No I don’t want to just entertain you

Are you looking for distraction?
I mean if that’s your course of action
Don’t get me wrong there is a time and place for fun
But I ain’t looking to distract no one

Because there’s change brewing
No longer is it deep beneath the surface
The way this train’s moving
It’s forcing us to think about our purpose

I’m not scared to sing about revolution
My soul won’t rest until we find solution
It might take all day and night or the rest of our lives
But it’s worth a try

Because a few years our bodies return to the earth
Our bones and blood will become one with the dirt
And I don’t know about you but I want my moves to matter
So the young souls know that love is all we were after

What do you stand for?
What brings you to your knees?
What do you live for?
What are you dying to see?
What did you come here for?
And what will you leave?
When you’re gone what lives on as your legacy?

When you’re gone what lives on as your legacy?

Repeat

I hope you feel INSPIRED and READY to get out there and be kind, be caring, look people in the eyes, smile, reach out, stand up, speak up...let's do this!

Love love love,

Elijah

Soul Song Sunday

Happy Sunday, Gorgeous!

Yup. This is a new thing I'm doing!

MUSIC FEEDS THE SOUL!

I don't know about you, but music can really change my day around. It is powerful medicine for my psyche/spirit/soul/body/self--however you experience it!

So every Sunday I'm going to send you a Soul Song to LIFT YOU UP in the coming week!

If you have a song that inspires you, please feel free to share! I'd love to hear it!

GLORIOUS by MaMuse

 

 

GLORIOUS by MaMuse Lyrics:

Oh what a day! Glorious!
Gather ‘round
There’s nothing better
Than a friend
Oh what a day! Glorious!
The smell of rain
Has hitched a ride
Upon the wind
I’ve got good friends
To the left of me
And good friends
To my right
Got the open sky above me
And the earth beneath my feet
Got a feeling in my heart
That’s singin’
All in life is sweet
Oh what a day!
Oh, what a day! Glorious!
All the clouds
Have gathered round
The tops of trees
Oh what a day! Glorious!
Pitter patter
Fallin’ rain I can’t believe
All that’s green
Lifts up its leaves
Singin’ water come on in
We’ve been waiting all these days
Prayin’ you would come to quench
Every yearnin’ in our bones
Water, life with you begins
Oh what a day
Home is believing
Home has wings of faith
Home is a clear river
Of perceiving
All is well
This is a friendly mystery
Oh, what a day! Glorious!
Baby blue jay
Squawkin’ in the cherry tree
Oh, what a day! Glorious!
Deep in the night we had a raccoon robbery
Pitter patter little paws
Have left their footprints all around
Pitter patter evidence
Some fruit has fallen to the ground
Pitter patter sings my heart
At the thought of what’s to come
Oh, what a day!
Home is believing
Home has wings of faith
Home is a clear river of perceiving
All is well
This is a friendly mystery
All is well
This is a friendly mystery
Oh, what a day! Glorious!
Under the sky we slept last night
Just you and me
Oh, what a day! Glorious!
The waning moon
Our cycle is almost complete
We’ve got good friends to the left of us
And good friends to our right
Got the open sky above us
And the earth beneath our feet
Never fear-the birds are singin’
Even endings can be sweet
Oh, what a day!
Never fear--the birds are singin’
Even endings can be sweet
Oh, what a day!

Have and INSPIRED WEEK!!

Love,

Elijah

Find Your Tribe

I am so excited for 2018! As you may recall, 2017 kicked my ass. I mean--I think it kicked a lot of people's asses, but with Scott (my husband) coming close to dying from sepsis...and then just as things were getting back to normal he severely broke his leg...and two of our dogs died. Anyway. I'M READY FOR 2018!

Sometimes life flows and sometimes it ebbs. Last year, in terms of Vibrant Living, things ebbed. And that's okay. I've still been coaching private clients every week which is good for my soul and means I continue to grow my coaching skills. And I also got really clear on who I am and what I stand for in this world. I feel like my business was a like a big ocean liner that I decided to make a U-turn with. It took time! But I did it and now the ship is moving in the right direction.

What are some of the things I stand for? Here's a short list:

  • Kindness above all. I truly believe that kindness is our Super Power.

  • Women are badass.

  • There's a lot of phenomenal men out there, too, and I love creating a new paradigm of equality and respect with them.

  • Women have been fed a load of shit around beauty and our bodies and we've bought into it. It's keeping us down and holding us back and whatever I can do to set us free from that oppressive model I'm going to do.

  • Health is much, much more than good cholesterol and low blood pressure. The concept of health must include mental well-being, emotional well-being, access to opportunity, sense of belonging, freedom from oppression...and many more things.

  • Our value is not in how we look. Our value is in how we live our lives and what we bring to the world.

  • Now more than ever, I believe women are being called to stand up and step up into their power. The world is dying for the feminine.

Over the course of 2018 I'll get into detail with you about all these. You may have questions! You may have thoughts! I'm excited!

If any of this resonates with you, then AWESOME! And if you're soooooo not into it, that's okay, too! Straight up: I'm going to be writing more about this stuff this year and if you feel you need to leave this mailing list because it's not your groove I completely understand (and I will be sad to see you go--but ultimately I want you to take care of YOU. Self-care!)

For those of you that are excited about any of this, I invite you to join me this coming Saturday, January 13th, for my first ever Virtual Goddess Gathering! WOOT WOOT! The purpose of this is my drive, passion, desire...and, yes, my obsession to bring like-minded women together to lift each other up and help us all SHINE. I'm going to be doing several of these throughout 2018 and they are all free. I know the power of coming together and it ROCKS. Women are unstoppable when they are in community.

DETAILS:

Date: Saturday, January 13th, 2018

Time: 10am PST, 12pm CST, 1pm EST

Place: Your cozy sofa in your warm home via Zoom video conferencing!

Click here if you want to sign up. And yes, please share this with other women you know looking for their tribe.

Here's to a new year of shifts and transformation,

Elijah

 

Join Me for a Goddess Gathering!

Happy Holidays!! Along with the joy and cheer, this time of year can also feel a bit crazy and intense for so many reasons. My hope and wish for you is that you're taking good care of yourself and that during this time you're with someone you love and who loves you whether that's your family of origin or family of choice.

As we head into the New Year, it's such a great time to look inward, discover and affirm what is important to us, and make some conscious decisions on how we want to move forward into the next 12 months. It's not about making resolutions...it's about the ritual of renewal and the opportunity that provides for us to examine our past and claim our future.

With this in mind, I am finally doing something that I’ve been dreaming of for years and that is to create a virtual space to bring women together in community and support –I’m calling it the Goddess Gathering!

When I lived in NYC, there was a group of women that would get together monthly, make dinner together, hang out and talk about life and give each other support. We’d also laugh a lot and sometimes even cry. We called it our Goddess Night. Ever since moving to San Francisco I've dreamed of recreating that feeling of love, joy, support and laughter.

This is going to be an online version of that gathering. I also have re-envisioned it to have a little structure. I plan on this Goddess Gathering to be the first of many and each will have a theme.

The first virtual Goddess Gathering is Saturday, January 13th and I would love for you to come! The theme of this gathering is Core Desired Feelings—Setting Intentions for 2018!

This Gathering will operate around the ideas of feminism, social justice, women’s empowerment, spirituality (whatever your idea is of the bigger picture!), and living our lives more fully with the support of a community of like-minded women.

There is no cost for this event. It is all about community and connection.

In order to receive all the information you need to join in on January 13th, you'll need to click here and sign up...all the info will follow! I'M SO EXCITED!

DETAILS:

  • Date: Saturday, January 13th, 2018

  • Place: Your computer :)

  • Time: 10am PST - 11:30am PST (1pm EST - 2:30pm EST)

    • A word about TIME. There's no perfect time for me to host this event, and for that I'm sorry! All of us have busy lives and different commitments. I have chosen a time that I hope works well for most people. Regardless, I am asking you to show up powerfully for this event (and in your life!) which may mean creating a clearing for you to be able to attend. I know it can be hard, trust me. But it will definitely be worth it. xo

I can't wait to see you and dig deep into what we want to intentionally create in the New Year!

Love,

Elijah